Yes, there are many things that I remember people have said to me in my life. Sayings that stick with me. Words, phrases and entire conversations that have been shared with me embedded in my memory are threads of thought strung together. They are holding me together.
Yet there are so many things that have been left unsaid. What hasn’t been said maybe be more important than what has been said.
How many times I wished that I had said things to my abuelita before she left this earth? How I wished my mom would say things to me that she can’t. How I mulled over things I want to say to my tres hijos, but am embarrassed to. How I wished I could tell my “mean” sister to just cut it out. How I wished I could explain to my other abuela that people are sorry for all the misunderstanding.
This year, above all years, I have micro-focused on what’s really important. Life is not only short, but unpredictable. The things we have to say must be said.